I had a kick-ass time at the FlyPeople Mug Night last night. While I was there, however, I noticed that an awful lot of girls were dancing solo by the walls, waiting for someone to approach them. And no one did! It made me think, either I'm just beginning to notice the effects of a skewed gender ratio or for some reason a large portion of the guys just didn't bother going to dance. I put more stake into the latter explanation, and therefore pose these questions for the guys reading this: Where were you? What were you doing that was so important that you left a bunch of girls waiting in anticipation, only to be left disappointed?Crito
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well, i sure as hell was dancing my @$$ off from midnight to 2 a.m....
i can't believe i didn't see you!
;D
i was dancing with your mom last night.
the mug is very awkward. i don't think most guys like to dance in the first place, and the fact that as soon as you enter that place everyone looks at you and you can't ease into it makes all the more uncomfortable. those are my two cents anyway.
I think it's not that guys should come out and approach girls, but that the girls should go with their friends and dance with them. I mean, I'm not horrible-looking, but I've never been approached at a dance. I used to go with my friends and dance with them, and that was totally fun. If I saw a guy I wanted to dance with, I'd ask. Simple as that.
Girls "against the walls"--take some initiative if there's a guy you want to dance with, or just got to have FUN with your friends. Life isn't about being pursued.
Honestly I've done the bring friends along apporach and as fun as it is, I wish I didn't have to do all the work when approaching a guy. It kinda hurts when you think you look great and feel good about yourself but then it seems like no one wants to dance with you anyway! Guys do kinda need to step it up 'cause I don't think is a scenario exclusive to the mug....
guys at vassar get so spoiled, i feel.
from a male perspective, the situation is this: if you ask a girl to dance who isn't interested, you feel at the worst sketchy, at the least mildly embarassed. if a girl asks a guy to dance and he isn't intersted, she should assume he is (1) not single and perhaps is there with his gf or (2) is an asshole and can't bother to take a few songs to dance with a girl even if he isn't attracted to her, and therefore not worth her time anyway. either way, no sweat.
just seems way easier for the girl to approach.
Hmmm...really? I kinda like the way you phrase that. I'll test that hypothesis and see what happens...
well put, 10:57PM. But as for guys being spoiled (9:10PM), I'm not so sure about that. At least, I know I'm not spoiled.
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